Feelings are meant to be felt - this was a new concept for Dr. Skylar Clark. Just over a year ago she moved her family of 6 from one coast to the other, navigating 4 new schools, a new city, new culture, new job and no family in town to help. Skylar came to coaching wanting to create new systems and structures to help her manage life, but instead she left with a toolkit filled with strategies to help her manage, not just her chaotic circumstances, but the chaos inside herself. Listen in as Skylar walks you through the #1 tool she learned in coaching – how to feeling your feelings.

You get to decide what you want to think about your to do list. You could decide to think “I’m behind” or “I’m not getting enough done”, which is likely going to leave you feeling inadequate and exhausted or you can choose to think “I’m on top of everything” or “I know what I’m doing”, which will have you feeling successful and accomplished. In today’s podcast, I’m talking about how important your thoughts are when it comes to your to do list. I will walk you through the kinds of thoughts that are not to think and I’ll give examples of exactly what you need to think in order to walk away from work feeling accomplished, successful and satisfied (no matter how many things you checked off the list). And then at the end, I offer one very simple five minute practice to help you get out of “it’s not enough” thinking.

It’s very uncomfortable for your brain to be in uncertainty. To not know. To be unclear on the answer. To not be sure that something is right. When you feel uncertain and are unable to make a decision, you start to feel stuck and your brain experiences tunnel vision (where it hyper focuses on the problem). In today’s podcast I am talking about what to do when you feel uncertain. There’s a magical question I ask my clients, when they’re in a state of not knowing (in other words uncertainty) that helps get them out of the problem so they can think clearly and make powerful decisions to move forward without guilt or anxiety. Tune in to learn more about how it works.

Last week I challenged my client, Lindsay, to do something luxurious. Something that felt a little excessive (maybe even a little irresponsible). As a high achiever, her brain was stuck in trying to make the most of her time and I wanted her to focus less on productivity and more on doing things that simply felt good. She accepted my challenge and in today’s episode I am offering the same challenge to you. You deserve to live a life of luxury, a life of great comfort! I will give you several ideas that Lindsay and I came up with and share more about what this challenge is and how irresponsibility, guilt and a lack of worthiness are getting in the way, and then what to do about them.

There are 4 things you need to believe about yourself and your future if you want to meet your goals as an ambitious working mom. Your goals, the things you want in life, are not going to just happen by chance…it is the belief in them happening and how they will happen that makes achieving them inevitable. Today is part 4 of a 4-part series on the thoughts that you have about yourself and in this episode I am focusing on the thoughts that you have about your future and how important those thoughts are to you achieving all of the goals and dreams that you have for your life.

Believing “I am doing it right” and “I’m giving them enough” are two essential beliefs for ambitious and balanced working moms. You need to be feeling like you are making right choices for your family, and you need to feel like you’re spending enough time with your kids. It’s about rightness and enoughness. This is part 3 of a 4-part series on the thoughts that you have about yourself and today we’re focusing on the 2 essential thoughts you need to have about yourself as a mom.

If your internal dialogue about yourself and your work is primarily negative, meaning your thoughts tend to skew toward: I’m not good enough, I should be doing more, they’re going to find me out, I’m not very good… then you will likely always over prioritize work and not feel balanced. Today’s episode is part 2 of a 4-part series on the thoughts that you have about yourself, where we are covering four different areas of life and the impact your thoughts in those areas have. Today, I am covering the thoughts you have about yourself at work, how your thoughts drive your balanced (or imbalanced) actions and exactly what those thoughts sound like, so you can avoid them.

Today we are starting a 4-part series focused on the thoughts you have about yourself. Your thoughts play an important role in creating the ambitious and balanced working mom life you want. Your thoughts either make you feel satisfied and successful or they make you feel inadequate and unhappy. Over the next 4 weeks we will cover your thoughts on 4 key areas of life starting, today, with the most intimate area…your marriage. Having a relationship you WANT to be in is an important part of creating a balanced life. Today we will talk about why your thoughts have probably drifted away from your marriage, the types of thoughts that are not useful to you when it comes to having a loving relationship and I’ll share with you a few personal practices that will help you reconnect to your relationship.