I never allowed myself to buy avocados or berries. They were too expensive.
I’d buy them for special occasions, sometimes for guests, but for me? Never.
If I was going to buy it, I had to need it.
This was true for most things in life: socks, nails, cars, drinks…I needed "permission" in order to have them. My desire wasn’t enough.
Eventually I started to create need in order to get things I wanted:
🥑 I would choose a recipe to cook for friends that called for avocados.
🎁 I would buy household gadgets and give them to my husband as an "extra" Christmas gift.
💅 I would persuade my daughter to trade in all her Halloween candy for a Mom/Daughter pedicure.
🚗 I’d wait till I was broken down on the side of the road before buying a car (even when the mechanic told us it could break at any time).
Because I only ever spent money on myself when I needed to, I wasn’t in touch with what I wanted.
I didn’t set goals. I didn’t think of myself as being able to make a big impact. I second guessed every little decision. Never knew what I wanted to eat. I didn’t allow myself to change jobs (even when I was unhappy).
It didn’t matter how much money we had in the bank, I could never have something simply because I wanted it. Money wasn’t the issue, it was my mindset of lack.
I always worried about having enough and I always worried that I wasn’t enough.
You know what you create with a mindset of lack? Not enough of anything. Not enough time, not enough money, never feeling like I was enough for my kids or spouse.
It became a self-fulfilling prophecy, not because it was true but because I was always thinking about it.
This was the turning point.
Realizing it wasn’t factual that I didn’t have enough or wasn’t enough, it was simply a mindset and a mindset was changeable.
I went to work to fix that mindset. To start believing in my enoughness.
I would sit in my chair with a warm blanket, a cup of tea and a cozy fire and think about how I had everything I needed in that very moment. I wasn’t lacking for anything. I’d allow that feeling to fill my whole body, just for a moment.
And then I would do it again the next day. And the next.
Then, I started allowing myself avocados and blueberries.
And socks before there were holes.
And a long shower way past the amount of time I needed to get clean.
I filled myself with thoughts of being enough and having enough.
And slowly those thoughts became my reality.
💰 I started making more money.
💪 Feeling more confident.
✨ Spending money on things I wanted.
🕺 Taking bigger leaps of faith in my business.
🔥 Speaking up.
I became enough.
Today, I help other women believe they’re enough too so they can have a fulfilling career and a motherhood experience they love.
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