I’m weary. Not just tired, but weary.
COVID, racial injustice, sudden home-schooling, constant transitions ("wait, I thought you were watching the kids?!"), lack of routine, death in the family, canceled vacations, cabin fever…these are not just physically exhausting….they are mentally and emotionally taxing as well (hence why I am weary.)
But I am not going to wait till shelter-in-place is over to fix my weariness (hello day # 102 of shelter in place); if I did that, I’d be leaving my happiness up to fate. Up to my government.
Heck no.
I am going to decide what to do about my weariness and then do it.
Let’s start with what I’ve decided NOT to do:
I’m not going to simply push through my feelings and simply ignore them
I’m not going to feel guilt for all the things I am NOT doing
I’m not going to take on any task that isn’t necessary
Instead, I’m going to make feeling and processing through my weariness my #1 goal and I will put boundaries in place to ensure it happens.
Boundaries are the decisions you make that protect what is most important to you.
Right now…I am the most important. My emotions are the most important. Everyone (my clients, kids, spouse, friends…) will benefit when I prioritize me.
So…my boundaries will be:
Saying no (or canceling) any unessential appointments
Saying no to games or activities I don’t really want to do with my kids
Saying yes to an early bedtime
Saying no to mindless scrolling or Netflix at night
Saying yes to take-out or easy dinners
Saying yes to crying whenever I feel like
This is my commitment to myself (and now to you).
Have you prioritized YOU lately? What boundaries do you need to put in place to make that happen?
Send me an email and let me know, I am with you in this.
