One of the reasons working from home is so difficult with your kids around is that whenever they want your attention and you can't give it to them, you feel guilty.
This, of course, is not a new phenomenon, likely you always felt guilty when you couldn't give them the attention they wanted...
You take time to go to the gym, your kids don't want you to go.
You want to shut the door to the bathroom to pee in peace, your kids want to be with you.
You drop them off at day care, they don't want you to leave.
And, how do they show you their feelings? They cry. Sometimes tantrum....and then because they are unhappy, you make it mean something about you and you feel guilt.
This is the cycle.
What is interesting, is If they didn't cry, we likely wouldn't feel guilt.
It is their unhappiness that sparks the guilt.
But, here is the thing...
It's ok for our kids to cry. It's ok for them to be unhappy and not like our choices.
THIS IS NORMAL.
They are likely never going to like you working from home, where you don't give them all the attention. Never!
This doesn't mean anything has gone wrong and it doesn't mean you are a bad parent....because it is normal!
Normalizing our kids crying and not "reading into it" will immediately make you feel better. Sure, you might still be sad (it is super hard to hear our kids cry) but it doesn't mean everything is wrong.
So, as you make choices to work from home, pee alone or go for a run...just expect they won't like it and decide what you want to do from there. From a place of "this is normal".
See what happens.
