Before her baby was born, Elaine put everything into her career.
60+ hour work weeks
Fit in self-care where she could
Always saying yes to the boss
But after her son came into the world, her priorities shifted.
“For over a decade, I’ve let work dominate my life to the point where it became my identity. Now with a baby, I’m having an identity crisis. I am now a mom, and simply not able to, nor do I want, work to have that type of dominant role in my life.”
She needed to set up very clear expectations on when she would work and how much. The problem was…as long as her career felt like her dominate identity…she would always compromise the boundaries.
Elaine had to separate her identity (her value) from her work. Her success, accomplishments and career path could no longer be the lens to which she saw herself.
There are two types of value:
Accomplished value
Human value
Your accomplished value is a measurement of how good you are at your job (or various roles in your life).
Your human value is a measurement of how good of a human you are, and it has nothing to do with your career success.
What Elaine needed to learn was that as long as her human value was tied to her career success, her brain would never let her pull back and put-up boundaries.
In coaching, Elaine worked at naming her human value. I like to call this your uniqueness. The gifts you bring into this world simply because you exist. Your God-given talents, if you will.
The process of pushing her brain to think of her human value eased the anxiety that came with putting up boundaries at work.
--> She was able to decide how much she wanted to work, and when.
--> She was able to think clearer about what she wanted next in her career and take steps toward new goals.
--> And ultimately, she was able to say “no” to her boss when his requests didn’t fit within her boundaries.
This is the freedom that comes from separating your accomplished value from your human value.
You are more than your work.
You are more than being a mom.
You are a human that was put here on this earth with great purpose and abilities.
It’s time to sink deeper into who you are at the core.
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