More time with your kids does not make you a better mom.
Being more present when you’re with them…does.
Not checking your phone for an email response.
Not thinking about how dirty your house is.
Not playing a game just to appease them.
Not cleaning the dishes when they’re telling you about their day.
It is never about how MUCH time you spend, but the QUALITY of the time.
And the biggest culprit for lowering the quality of your time? Thinking you’re not spending enough time.
I spend more time at my job than I do with my kids...
I’m missing out on my kids’ childhood…
My kids spend more time with the nanny than with me...
These thoughts literally focus your brain on what you DON’T have instead of what you DO.
Focusing on the lack of time will never allow you to be the best mom you can be because it takes you out of the moment. In the back of your brain you’ll be wishing for more and your heart will sink as you think about leaving to go to work. And then, in an instant, you are no longer present (and, of course, our kids pick up on that).
The #1 way to give your kids the best of who you are is to stop thinking the time you spend is not enough and to instead focus on making the time that you have the best it can possibly be.
